To ask or not to Ask

September is Suicide Prevention Month and as a Mental Health Therapist one of the biggest myths I hear is that if we ask about suicide, we might put that thought in someone’s head. However, the opposite is true, asking the questions communicates to the person that you are willing to listen and that they are not alone. It also opens the door for them to seek help or support. Using appropriate nonjudgmental language when asking about suicide is crucial. This can help reduce the stigma associated with mental health challenges and make the individual feel more comfortable sharing their thoughts and emotions. It is also essential to listen and offer support without judgment or criticism. If you or someone you know has lost a loved one to suicide, you are not alone! Despite our best efforts we still might lose someone to suicide. However, recognizing the warning signs and knowing how to help can save someone’s life.

Here are some warning signs of suicide.

Feelings: empty, hopelessness, trapped, or having no reason to live

Talking About it: Wanting to die, being a burden to others.

Changing Behavior: Making plans or researching ways to die, withdrawing from friends or family, saying goodbye, giving away important items, or making a will, taking dangerous risks, using drugs or alcohol more often.

How To Help:

Stay Calm and Stay with Them: If the person expresses suicidal thoughts, stay with them if possible. Reassure them that you're there to support them and that they don't have to go through it alone.

Encourage Professional Help: Encourage the person to seek professional help. Offer to assist them in finding a mental health provider, therapist, or counselor. If they're unwilling to seek help, consider involving a trusted family member or friend who can provide support.

Stay Connected: Follow up with the person regularly to check on their well-being. Show that you care and are there for them over the long term.

Know Emergency Resources: Be aware of local and national crisis helplines, such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 988.

Self-Care: Remember to take care of yourself too. Supporting someone who is struggling with suicidal thoughts can be emotionally draining, so seek support from friends, family, or professional help if needed.

By following these strategies, you can contribute to reducing the stigma around discussing suicide and offer crucial support to individuals in crisis.